does it actually really take 2 hands to clap...??

one very old term that i have heard over and over again and again from people..from time to time...but i realised that it's not necessarily very true...some how i suddenly just come out with this theory or thesis...(actually been thinking for awhile now...)

true that techinically speaking it takes 2 hands to clap...
but sometimes, when one hand is too tired, then the other hand will just have to make the extra effort to move further, faster and harder to make the *clap*...

I think it might be very true for a relationship...
love is never fair or unfair...
True that it might be unfair as 1 party is always loving the other more...say the left hand is always going the extra a mile to make the clap...then it would be only be fair that when the left hand is tired, the right hand will take the initiative go the extra effort...

however, the willingness to take that extra effort lies in the right hand who beholds the future...

李玖哲~我會好好過

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EaK7Tog-xGg

你的爱很像泡沫
太轻或太重
都不在手中

我的爱就像天空
太放或太收
你都只是风

你来过却爱上自由
你出走我不问理由

我会好好过
等你再爱我
总有个角落
会让你想起我
我会好好过
等你再爱我
向右或向左
都有我站在这里守候

你留下很多
够我面对寂寞
寂寞不重
重是爱太多
我会好好过
等你回头
会看到的一定是我...

李玖哲 - 再见

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-lGOCE6kIUE

电话还在响，
我有些心慌，
熟悉的号码在挣扎。
故作的坚强，
虚伪的力量，
撑过这一刻更悲伤
未接的电话
是一种惩罚
不该想却割舍不下
如果再见我，
你能说什么，
说爱我，我只是寂寞
原谅我冷漠，选择不联络
因为我，担心你会听见我还那么难过。
oh~
短讯声在响，
凌晨两点半，
清醒的房里更孤单
你去睡了吗，想你的习惯
这夜晚为你而混乱
如果再见我
你能说什么
说爱我，我只是寂寞
原谅我冷漠，选择不联络
因为我，担心你会听见我，还那么难过
因为对你我连再见都说不出口
我想你能够爱还在心中
如果再见我，
你能说什么
说爱我，我只是寂寞
原谅我冷漠，选择不联络
因为我，
担心你会听见我。
还那么难过
oh~

you... only hope... cry...

you...

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=A4kUerbHr6U

only hope...

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0ofeDruIwTM&NR=1


cry...

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3WA7I_iHXXM

scarred...

A heart that has no physical form...
A pain that feels like no physical pain...

sometimes when you feel this...
you inflict physical ones to make yourself feel better...

A walk to remember...

Love is always patient and kind...
It is never jealous...
Love is never boastful nor conceiving...
It is neither rude nor selfish...
It does not take offence...
And it is not resentful...
Love takes no pleasure in other people's sins...
But delights in the truth...
It is always ready to excuse, to trust, to hope and to endure...
What ever comes...


true love can never ever be destroyed and will always remain with the rest of my life...

Your Guardian Angel...

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=geRdF1XWsoM&mode=related&search

When I see your smile, tears roll down my face. I can't replace.
And now that I'm strong, I have figured out,
How this world turns cold and it breaks through my soul.
And I know, I'll find, deep inside me, I can be the one.

I will never let you fall.
I'll stand up with you forever.
I'll be there for you through it all.
Even if saving you sends me to heaven.

It's okay. It's okay. It's okay.

Seasons are changing and waves are crashing
And stars are falling all for us.
Days grow longer and nights grow shorter, I can show you I'll be the one.

I will never let you fall.
I'll stand up with you forever.
I'll be there for you through it all.
Even if saving you sends me to heaven.

Cause you're my, you're my, my, my, my true love,
My whole heart, please don't throw that away.
Because I am here, for you.
Please don't walk away, and please tell me you'll stay.

Whoa-oh-ohStayWhoa-oh-oh

Use me as you will, pull my strings just for a thrill.
And I know I'll be okay, though my skies are turning gray.

I will never let you fall.
I'll stand up with you forever.
I'll be there for you through it all.
Even if saving you sends me to heaven.

I will never let you fall.
I'll stand up with you forever.
I'll be there for you through it all.
Even if saving you sends me to heaven.

Chapter 4....

“If I seek to fulfill those needs at the expense of my partner, we are sure to experience unhappiness, resentment and conflict. The secret of forming a successful relationship is for both partners to win…”


"Many women instinctively understand how to give this message. In the beginning of a relationship, a woman gives a man a brief look that says you could be the one to make me happy. In this subtle way she actually initiates their relationship. This look encourages him to come closer. It empowers him to overcome his fears of having a relationship. Unfortunately, once they are in a relationship and as the problems begin to emerge, she doesn’t know how important that message still is to him and neglects to send it..."


When a man matures, he also learns that he may be giving up himself, but his major change is becoming more aware of how he can succeed in giving. Likewise as a woman matures, she also learns new strategies for giving, but her major change tends to be learning to set limits in order to receive what she wants.


A young boy who is fortunate enough to see his father succeed in fulfilling his mother enters relationships as an adult with a rare confidence that he can succeed in fulfilling his partner. He is not terrified of commitment because he knows he can deliver. He also knows that when he doesn’t deliver he is still adequate and still deserves love and appreciation for doing his best. He does not condemn himself because he knows he is not perfect and that he is always doing his best and his best is good enough. He is able to apologize for his mistakes because he expects forgiveness, love, and appreciation for doing his best…

Chapter 3...Men vs Woman

Men…

When a man is stressed, he will withdraw into the cave of his mind and focus on solving a problem. He generally picks the most urgent problem or the most difficult. He becomes so focused on solving this one problem that he temporarily loses awareness of everything else. Other problems and responsibilities fade into the background…

At such times, he becomes increasingly distant, forgetful, unresponsive and preoccupied in his relationships…when a man is stuck in his cave, he is powerless to give his partner the quality attention she deserves. It is hard for her to be accepting of him at these times because she doesn’t know how stressed he is. If he were to come home and talk about all his problems, then she could be more compassionate. Instead he doesn’t talk about his problems, and she feels he is ignoring her. She can tell he is upset but mistakenly assumes he doesn’t care about her because he isn’t talking to her.

Women generally do not understand how Martians cope with stress. They expect men to open up and talk about all their problems the way Venusians do. When a man is stuck in his cave, a woman resents his not being more open…to expect a man who is in his cave instantly to become open, responsive, and loving is as unrealistic as expecting a woman who is upset immediately to calm down and make complete sense. It is a mistake to expect a man to always be in touch with his loving feelings just as it is a mistake to expect a woman’s feelings to always be rational and logical


Women…

When a woman is stressed, she instinctively feels a need to talk about her feelings and all the possible problems that are associated with her feelings. When she begins talking she does not prioritize the significance of any problem. If she is upset, then she is upset about it all, big and small. She is not immediately concerned with finding solutions to her problems but rather seeks relief by expressing herself and being understood…

To feel better, women talk about past problems, future problems, potential problems, even problems that have no solutions. The more talk and exploration, the better they feel.
Just as a man is fulfilled through working out the intricate details of solving a problem, a woman is fulfilled through talking about the details of her problems…

Something a woman can do to make it easier for a man is to let him know in advance the outcome of the story and then go back and give details. Avoid keeping him in suspense…Women commonly enjoy letting the suspense build because it brings more feeling into the story but a man can be easily frustrated…the degree to which a man does not understand a women is the degree to which he will resist her when she is talking about her problem…

More important, if a woman can remind a man that she just wants to talk about her problems and that he doesn’t have to solve any of them, it can help him to relax and listen…

Chapter 2...

" Many times a woman just wants to share her feelings about her day, and her husband, thinking he is helping interrupts her by offering a steady flow of solutions to her problems..."


" a man wants to make improvements when he feels he is being approached as the solution to a problem rather than as the problem itself..."

chapter 1...

Imagine that men are from Mars and women from Venus. One day long ago, the Martians, looking through their telescopes, discovered the Venusians. Just glimpsing the Venusians awakened feelings they had never know. They fell in love quickly, invented space travel and flew to Venus.

The Venusians welcomed the Martian with open arms. They had intuitively known that this day would come. Their hearts opened wide to a love they had never felt before…

The love between them was magical and they delighted being together. Though from different worlds, they reveled in their differences and spent months learning about each other, exploring and appreciating their different needs, preferences, and behavior patterns. For years they lived together in love and harmony…

Then they decided to fly to earth. In the beginning everything was wonderful and beautiful. But the effects of the earth’s atmosphere took hold and one morning everyone woke up with a peculiar kind of amnesia – selective amnesia.

Both the Martians and Venusians forgot that they were from different planets and were suppose to be different. In one morning, everything they had learned about their differences was erased from their memory…and since then, men and women have been in conflict…

to be continued...

If there is anything left to say...
It will be "I Love You Everyday..."

Mom & Dad

To : Mom & Dad

I’ve never learnt how to express myself…or to tell things directly…

But I want to let you know this part of my life…
I still remember promising mom that I will live my life to the fullest…
And promises always meant so much to me…

I want to let you know that I have been searching for a partner in life…
And that I have been preparing myself to settle down…
You may think that I should get a job before settling down…
But to me settling down means I can focus on my career…my family and my life…

I have been saving very hard…
Because I want to know how it feels like…
To give up what you need or want…
Like what you have been always doing for a son…


I never knew if you acknowledged her (cylysce)
Because you always address her as my “friend”
When I so much wanted to tell you’ll that she is a potential daughter in-law…
Now I can only tell and hope that you will acknowledge the next one…
She taught me and I’ve learnt so many things throughout these 3 years in life…
And I realized I haven’t seen much in life…and I want to know why…
I want to step out and socialize…
It is not her fault… but I just chose to give ourselves a chance…
To see convince myself to see if she’s really the one…
Believe me that she is my first serious relationship…
And I promise it will always be serious…
And I always give all I’ve got...
The next time if we really get together…
Then I will really want to marry her…

I’ve been saving so hard for the trip…
Because I told myself not to rely on you…
I’ve promised myself to bring her there…
And promises meant I can now only bring her as a friend…
I never thought about the money I saved…
Because promises & trust in life meant much more to me…
And it’s how I am and always leading my life…

I hope that you can realize…
That I have grown so much…
That I am no longer the small little son…
When you always think I am one…
Maybe because I have never said it out…
That’s why you never understand…
When ever I need guidance…I don’t know how to ask for one…
But somehow I’ve always managed to get things done…

I feel like I have disappointed everyone…
And I don’t know how to say it…
That’s why I can only type this letter in hope you can understand
A small tiny portion of my life…
Rest assured that I will still be leading my own way of life…
To keep my promises alive…

What is this pain inside of me…
Taking each and every breath out of me…
Like I can never breathe in it…

Am i dead or alive...
that's what i cannot realise...


i will try my best...
and find out what's best for me...
and i hope you will find it to...maybe in time to come...
but i know not right now...not this very moment...


I want you to open your eyes…
And see what’s real inside…
That I’m just an ordinary guy…
Who’s as small as a fly…
You’ve only seen a tiny tree…
So tiny deep within me…
But what about the whole forest…
That you have never stepped into first…
It doesn’t matter if I’m your first, second or third…
All i wanna see is a fresh free bird...

for my one and only you...

There will be no poems at this time…
But rather gratefulness that lies…

You have taught me so much about life…made me strong and alive…I’ve never been able to live my life to the fullest…until I met you…I don’t know how to express into words for the feelings I’m having…and it’s the first time for me to not be able to express through words…you have and will always be in my world…no matter how long it goes…

I’ve let so many people down…and I feel just like a clown…
I don’t know what has just left…inspirations…feelings…or care…
But I will still try and continue to write…this story that has been inside…

I’m glad I have changed your life…
And I know you have done for mine…
I will remember them by heart…never tearing them apart…

I am honored to have made your life…
Sad and regretted not being able to complete it wise…
Just know I will always be there…
And that you don’t have to speak when no words can express with…
Remember to always use those eyes...and I will see them deep inside…

As I always say…”knowing you is the best gift I’ve ever received…”

Women from all over the world...

Women from all over the world…
Come forth and heed my word…
I cannot ask you to promise this…
But I hope you will accept it…
Never throw your Pride…
Because all you'll get is a pack of lies…
Never throw your Esteem…
Because all hopes will turn to steam…
Never plea or beg…
Because it will turn to regret…
Never Ever do that…
For a guy who’s worth all that…
Because what he always see…
Will once and for all may never be…
Women must always treat themselves with respect…
Or else guys will never know what to expect…
And most importantly…it might be the end…

Sometimes When We Touch - Olivia

You ask me if I love you
And I choke on my reply
I'd rather hurt you honestly
Than mislead you with a lie
And who am I to judge you
On what you say or do?
I'm only just beginning to see the real you...

And sometimes when we touch
The honesty's too much
And I have to close my eyes and hide
I wanna hold you til I die
Til we both break down and cry
I wanna hold you till the fear in me subsides

Romance and all its strategy
Leaves me battling with my pride
But through the insecurity
Some tenderness survives
I'm just another writer
Still trapped within my truth
A hesitant prize fighter
Still trapped within my youth

And sometimes when we touch
The honesty's too much
And I have to close my eyes and hide
I wanna hold you til I die
Til we both break down and cry
I wanna hold you till the fear in me subsides

At times I'd like to break you
And drive you to your knees
At times I'd like to break through
And hold you endlessly

At times I understand you
And I know how hard you've tried
I've watched while love commands you
And I've watched love pass you by

At times I think we're drifters
Still searching for a friend
A brother or a sister
But then the passion flares again

And sometimes when we touch
The honesty's too much
And I have to close my eyes and hide
I wanna hold you til I die
Til we both break down and cry
I wanna hold you till the fear in me subsides...

Alones...

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PjBkTmo9vTw&mode=related&search=

Your fragile, folded wings
are tired from the pure blue sky...
You don’t have to force your smiles for anyone...
It’s okay to smile…for yourself...

Hearing your sweet voice didn’t always hurt…
Its too late to block it from the inside…
I want to take back our time but luck and karma are against me…
There are no words, but your eyes can’t hide what you want to say…
I don’t even know anymore…

Try to bury it deep down oky…?
We don’t need that sky if we’re free to swim…
Even if you won’t talk about yesterday…
I’ll still be there to meet with you tomorrow...

Your fragile, folded wings
are just tired from the pure blue sky...
You don’t have to force your smiles for anyone...
It’s okay to smile…for yourself…

Cruel...

If you choose to read this on…
then promise me that you’ll not be affected upon…
This is my only remaining place…
Where I can express my frustrations to date…
Please don’t take them away…
Or never will there be much more to say…


Each and every minute…
Each and every second…
He feels like he’s being torn apart…
Till a point where there no longer is a heart…
Bleeding deep down inside…
Where no one could ever realize…
How much he puts on his disguise…


He tore 2 women’s heart…
2 most important people he never wanted to part…
They were his pillars of support…
For which he could never resort…
He finally understood being not qualified…
And it has been certified…
(How cruel…can I be…?
Killing what’s inside of me…?)
If life was ever like this…
Then he would rather choose not to live…
He knows it’s impossible…
Because he’s responsible…
Not just of his life…
But also for his future wife…
He doesn’t need sympathy to date…
But rather anger and hate…
He doesn’t deserve what he has…
Because the fact that he’s an ASS…

He believed that he was never wrong…
Believing that they were always strong…
What he saw in their eyes…
Can never tell a lie…
He wished to not be able to “see” again…
To end all chapters of this game…
He hopes they can really become friends…
Then together they might be able to understand…
Why they should never fall in love with this man…

He doesn’t want anyone to take the blame…
Because we never knew how it came…
He knows they are still very strong…
And asks them to keep holding on…
Right now he doesn’t deserve any help…
But only to depend on himself…
“Give me a few days” he said…
“Hopefully by then I'll be ready to operate…”
“Probably...stronger than you will ever speculate...”

Are you this kid...?

Crying lost in the cold winter streets…
He sat down sobbing just like a kid…
It’s dark and late at night…
Ticking slowly as time goes by…
He waits for an embrace…
But could find no familiar face…
He longs for a place…
Where warmth is always an ever grace…


She used to be a young and innocent girl…
Until the world came tumbling down on her…
She carried the burden of the weight...
And never did she sigh or hate…
Her eyes carry the scars of hurt…
And also the worth of love…
She will have her happiness…
Filled with care and tenderness…

if you leave me...

My heart will be frozen in time…
And I will be left to die…
My world would seize to exist…
And vision would be just like a mist…
Even if the world unfolds…
Or the and legends go untold…
Even if the words would crumble…
And make us fumble…
I will still stand…
And always bend…
To be the stone…
To step over the throne…